Harsh Reality of Chauvinistic Patriarchial World: Ambivalence of Objectified Second Sex after Rebellious Self-Assertion

In this paper efforts have been made to show the mixed feeling that comes in the mind of an Indian woman when she realises her worth. The chauvinistic world is using woman as an object to fulfil the desires since ages. Indian women are brought up in such atmosphere that they find it difficult to face men and like a dumb cattle obey all the orders of man, be it their father in childhood, their husband after marriage or their son in old age. She is never asked or allowed to express her own will and when she tries to take the decisions in her own hands she is tortured and insulted with taunts. This paper highlights the feelings of women when she faces such situation. In this paper a deep study of three plays of Vijay Tendulkar has been done which are Kamala, Silence! The Court Is In Session and Kanyadaan .

The best thing about the Literature is that it reflects the society and the human nature,  remain silent". The oppression of a man is considered a tragedy however that of a woman is seen as a tradition. It is a society where no one tries to understand the plight of a woman.
They are just used and thrown according to the choice of patriarchy. This is clear from when Oscar Wilde says, "Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood." However Anju Bala Agarwal further expresses her thoughts about the cyclone of thoughts that was going into Benare's mind. She says, "Benare breaks her forced silence at the close of the play, when she bursts forth into a long and brilliant monologue which brings out in most eloquent terms…This stunning monologue exposes the hypocricy of the urban middle-class male chauvinists who have all ganged up against her, as they are envious of her confidence and uncompromising spirit of independence." (198) In our next play Kanyadaan, we critically study the character of Jyoti who is a softspoken and highly cultured girl from a Brahmin family. She marries Arun, who is a dalit boy The play Kamala, is a story which is inspired by a real-life incident when a journalist Ashwin Sarin tries to gain position in society, buys a girl from the rural flesh market just to prove the human trade existing in the society. In the play the journalist Jaisingh Jadhav's selfish hunger for power and position makes him to purchase a woman Kamala who is further exposed in the press conference. He does not care what will happen to Kamala after this expose. Arundhati Banerjee exposing Jaisingh's selfishness says, "Jadav never stops to think what will happen to Kamala after this expose" (581). She further adds, "Kamala is an indictment of the success-oriented male-dominated society where women are often victims or stepping stones in men's achievements" (583). Selfishness of Jaisingh Jadav can be clearly seen when he says, "I just wanted to present her as evidence. And that was done." (30) Lisa Kemmerer remarks, "The reproductive abilities of women and other female animals are controlled and exploited by those in power (usually men) and both are devalued as they age and wear outwhen they no longer reproduce. Cows, hens and women are routinely treated as if they were objects to be manipulated in order to satisfy the desires of powerful men, without regard to female's wishes or feelings". In reference to this Arundhati Banerjee comments, "Like Kamala, Sarita is also an object in Jadav's life, an object that provides physical enjoyment, social companionship and domestic comfort." (581) Shibu Simon comments on the objectification of women, "The play Kamala deals with the problem of women being treated as a commodity in the modern world. Both Kamala and Sarita are commodities that can be sold off. In a country like India, the fate of a womanwhether tribal or urban or educated -is basically the same." (190). He further adds, "From birth, a girl is subjected to the negative reinforcement of her vulnerability to rape and assault. As a girl, she is under the protection of her father or brother; after marriage her husband is her lord and master and in old age her son becomes her protector." (191) The aforesaid fact is further proved when Barbara Kingsolver presents her views, Burstow writes, "Man looks on woman from his vantage point and reduces her to a being that is not foritself but for -him." Same idea has been expressed by Glennon Doyle as he concludes, "We weren't born distrusting and fearing ourselves. That was part of our taming.
We were taught to believe that who we are in our natural state is bad and dangerous. They convinced us to be afraid of ourselves. So we do not honour our own bodies, curiosity, hunger, judgement, experience, or ambition. Instead, we lock away our true selves. Women who are best at this disappearing act earn the highest praise: She is so selfless. Can you imagine? The epitome of womanhood is to lose one's self completely. That is the end goal of every patriarchial culture. Because a very effective way to control women is to convince women to control themselves." But the moment a women realises her self-worth no one can dare to control her. This concept is clearly presented by Mark Anthony where he concludes, "And one day she discovered that she was fierce, and strong, and full of fire, and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears." Patriarchial control over woman seems to be the never ending thing. Whenever women tries to speak up for themselves, they are made to shut their mouths. Rebecca Solnit expresses her views about the aforesaid fact as she speaks, "Every woman knows what I'm talking about.
It's the presumption that makes it hard, at times, for any woman in any field; that keeps women from speaking up and from being heard when they dare; that crushes young women into silence by indicating, the way harassment on street does, that this is not their world. It trains us in self-doubt and self-limitation just as it exercises men's unsupported confidence." When Kamala enters into Sarita's life, her innocent questioning makes Sarita realise that she too is a toy in the hands of her husband. Arundhati Banerjee exposes this fact in her quote, "Kamala's entry into the household reveals to Sarita the selfish hypocricy of her husband and the insignificance of her own existence."(581) W.E.B. Dubois suggests, "There is no force more powerful than a woman determined to rise." In the above context we find that Sarita's self -realization is clearly visible in her speech as she says, "I am going to present a man who in the year 1982 still keeps a slave, right here in Delhi. Jaisingh Jadhav. I'm going to say: this man's great advocate of freedom.
And he brings home a slave and exploits her. He doesn't consider a slave a human beingjust a useful object. One you can use and throw away. He gets people to call him a sworn enemy of tyranny. But he tyrannizes his own slave as much as he likes, and doesn't think anything of it-nothing at all. Listen to the story of how he bought the slave Kamala and made use of her. The other slave he got freenot just free -the slave's father shelled out the moneya big sum. (46) Same thought about a strong and confident woman is beautifully penned down by Carrie Green, "I can and I will. Watch me." Here Sarita feels herself in the position of a slave who is being used by her master since the time she got married to him. But we find that women are raised up in such a manner that even after realising their value they are not able to take the step and speak up openly against the injustice done to them. Arundhati Banerjee further comments on the seriousness of the situation as she expresses her views saying, "Like most of Tendulkar's sympathetic women characters, she does not have the spirit to rebel against her present condition. Instead, she extends emotional support to Jadav when at the close of the play he is treacherously deprived of his job."(581) Now call it the weakness or call it the greatness of a woman that she is so much devoted towards her duty that she overlooks every injustice done to her. In reference to the undomitable power of a husband when he lost his job. Infact it is her greatness and deep, true devotion for Jaisingh being his loyal wife. This is a remarkable quality of a woman about which Samuel Lowe says, "Sometimes it's the princess who kills the dragon and saves the prince." Thus in the paper after critically analising all three female characters it would not be wrong to say that woman has ample strength and confidence hidden within herself. What is required is just the self-realization of her hidden worth. However after realising their true identity women stop themselves from moving ahead taking the bold steps against the injustice and misbehave done towards them. It is not because they are afraid of the consequences but because since birth they are being taught to fulfil their duities with complete loyalty and devotion. This is the only weakness of women that they value their ideals more than their self-respect. True is said about the devotion of woman by Cook Elizabeth in her lyrics Sometimes It Takes Balls To Be A Woman , where she says, " Sometimes it takes balls to be a woman, Standing up to a test, while wearing a party dress."

Conclusion
Women is the foundation of this human society. She is like the building block of the human world. A woman should not be considered weak just because she stays cool and calm and respects the emotions and feelings of others. Infact woman is the strongest of all because she has a lot of patience that she faces all the torments and tortures and insults alone quietly.
It would also not be wrong to say that once she decides something and takes firm decision no one can stop her from getting what she wishes to achieve.